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Episode 5 : Celebration
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In this conversation, the hosts explore the theme of celebration, emphasizing its importance in fostering community, connection, and support.
They discuss various ways to celebrate others, the significance of overcoming envy and comparison, and the joy that comes from intentional acts of celebration. The conversation also highlights the necessity of self-celebration and how it can enhance our ability to celebrate others.
The Trifecta conclude by looking ahead to the next phase of collaboration, encouraging listeners to think about how they can celebrate themselves and others in their daily lives.
Welcome back to It Starts With Dot dot dot. Oh yeah. It's funny. Like we just look at each other, like, who's gonna say something? And that's that's the fun of you know co-creating co-creating a third thing, which we'll talk about. But today we're talking about something super fun, simple to do, but also very um, I don't know, generous, I would say, in terms of celebrating each other. So I think I'll I can kick it off if you want. We we talk about celebration in this framework as a way to share each other's gifts, a way to acknowledge each other, a way to genuinely from your heart celebrate someone that you love, believe in, want to see win, which is a big one, right? Because I think sometimes we can get into this envy um compet competition comparison space, very easy to do that. But once you're you're moving into like just to kind of go back a little bit from curiosity to connection to community, now you're really getting to know someone and you're able to see their gifts very clearly. And so this is where you have an opportunity to to mean as simple as liking someone's post. I know people who don't do that. I am the same, right? Which I find fascinating. Yeah, like why? It doesn't cost you anything, nothing at all. You just hit that like button. Yes, but it's very support. Yeah, somewhere within ourselves we have either not felt fully expressed, either not felt fully um seen in our own gifts, and maybe it's a little difficult to do that. So we want to just talk about that today. So maybe this will be a little more in-depth than we than we think. But celebration is a fun one because there's lots of ways to do that. So maybe we can go around and just share what celebration or celebrating someone that you're on this path with looks like, feels like means to to each of us.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. For me, I we were talking about this today at our earlier meeting, is I'm I'm a natural, like uh, I just talk in a way that I get really excited about things. And when I'm excited about something, I like I really encourage people to check out this person or this thing or this uh like probiotic drink, whatever it is. And so for me, I think I my way of celebrating, because I don't spend a lot of time on social, is actually in like word of mouth, like referral, like kind of like a traditional referral, and just celebrating once I truly know somebody or a product or a program or something that I like believe in and I've seen in action, or I have seen that person in action or that product in action, I will always have a recommendation for a person to connect with, uh, energy drink to drink, a you know, class to try, like, and and that's and that's my way of really celebrating people just by talking about them and sharing and encouraging other people to get involved or or connect. And it's also my way of celebrating the person that I'm also talking to and giving that referral to, is like really understanding and seeing what they're looking for, and then thinking through the Rolodex of my brain of like what could help them in that moment. And so celebrating the journey that they're on, celebrating the person that I want to connect them with, and and having that just a party all around. Celebration left, right, center.
SPEAKER_02I love it. So good. How about you, Sonia? I was just thinking back, like I've traditionally worked really independently, so there hasn't been a lot of celebration. I love this conversation though, um, because it makes me think about other ways it's come up. And in corporate, like I worked with a colleague who I'm still very, very close with, and he did like the most amazing job of celebrating people when something was happening, not necessarily birthday, but like some milestones, something big that happened work-wise. Like he would really raise that so that everybody around the table, like our team, could acknowledge that person. And I loved that so much. And I did that. Um, I tried to do more of that as I saw the impact that that had. It was so meaningful, you know, like especially like a group of colleagues. And oh, did you know that so-and-so just accomplished da-da-da-da-da? And it was quick and easy, but it's allowing that person to feel seen and heard. And it was such a beautiful way to celebrate people. So I certainly brought that into more of my corporate leadership work. And what I find now that I do on social media, and even with like we all have newsletters, I think we send out responding to newsletters. Like when you read something, you're like, oh my God, congratulations! Or that's so exciting! Like that is like such people like I will speak for myself. Your emails go out, your newsletters go out, and it feels like they go into the void. And I'm really fortunate I do have people that respond um quite regularly. And still, it's like there's that couple people that do, and then you're like, does it, does anyone else read it? Like, I don't know. And I love being able to do that, especially when somebody's highlighting something in their life. Um, and on social media too. Like if I see somebody's done something or they're sharing something, like I want to celebrate that. So I always think to respond. And I think I do that too because I also want the reciprocal. Like, I think we can support each other in that. Right. Yeah, I think that's really you're really good at that.
SPEAKER_01Oh, I see you as a as one of your gifts. Thanks for watching. Celebrating you. Um, I do think it comes from a place of abundance and generosity. Like if you have cost anything to comment on someone's thing, it doesn't cost anything to even like that post or thumbs up. Like, I think it's such an easy thing to do. Um, and there are some pitfalls that we've already mentioned a little bit, which is like the sort of comparison and the jealousy, and it comes from a lack mindset where like, oh, you know, she has this, so it takes something from me. And it's not even a conscious thought, really. I think it's something that we just sort of it might bring that little bit of envy up. And I I actually think envy is really good. I think it points, it points you like an arrow right to what you want. You're like, oh, I want that. So it takes a little bit of conscious sort of personal development on the spiritual side to say, like, there's enough for everyone. I have abundance, and oh, interesting. This envy is showing me that this is something that I want to. So, how do I then move closer to doing it my way? Um, some technical, technical ways to celebrate each other is to highlight each other.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Everything from sharing someone on your own social media. I have had both Sonia and Heather on my podcast. That's a way to celebrate people. I I try to like 95% of the time invite people I know and love and I know I want to have a conversation with because I want to share them with my audience and whoever else is to come. Um, so you can you can refer each other, like Heather was saying, to, but which on a side note, which is what we love to do, which is make people referable. If you're a service provider, if you're not really, really clear on what it is that you do and can't describe it, it's very hard to be referable and celebrated. So, side note, we'll be sharing a little bit more about that. But I think that's a really important place to be is that if you want to be celebrated and shared, you need to be very clear on what your gifts are and what you do as well. And we can help you with that a little bit later. Um, what do you what do you think? What are some other ways that you either would enjoy being celebrated or celebrate, meaning like highlight the person's gifts and even just saying it. I see you is really like a really cool, great place to start.
SPEAKER_02It is. It is. I was just thinking about that. I don't think it has to be some big grand thing. I think, and this is something, and we've talked about what Heather does so well here at the hub is welcoming people, remembering their name, like feeling seen as a celebration. Like that is in the same vein as celebrating. And I do think too, like when you're part of a community, there's opportunities to highlight, like just like my colleague as I was sharing, like, oh, did you know that Heather just published a book or that Elena has a brand new podcast, or like whatever it might be, like sharing that with other people. And I used to, in my newsletter, I used to do a little bit better job of that, like also highlighting other people in the world who are doing great work that's aligned with mine. And it just reminds me, like, that's an opportunity to come back to you. And I think, you know, the more we um share and celebrate each other and amplify what we're doing, I think that's good for all of us. Like I really feel honestly that energy comes back to you as well. Um, so those are the things really quickly off the top of my head, but I'm curious if you two would have anything else you would add.
SPEAKER_00I think anticipating needs is something that um is another way I think I personally like look to celebrate other people.
SPEAKER_02So can you give an example?
SPEAKER_00Yes, like this morning when I did pull up my social media, and I'm not a scroller or a tapper for the most part, but I'll go to like check messages or to post things um and kind of like check all my, you know, four profiles or whatever and like see if I've missed anything. But I actually came across um the uh somebody that I kind of know, I mean, know enough that this person follows my personal page and I follow them back and saw that her and her husband were on kind of like a new journey. They just hosted this event for this like next stage and chapter that they're they're taking to do something very specific. And so I just I sent her a message and was like, hey, I think that this is really cool. And um, if you need any help with anything or if you need space, let me know. Um, we have space if you're looking to host more things, and I'd I'd love to I'd I'd love to help out in any way that I can. And uh and so she messaged me back right away and she was like, Oh my gosh, that's so amazing. Thank you so much. Like, yes, actually, we are looking for more space. And so um that was just a way of like kind of guessing the journey that was ahead for them and guessing what might be helpful and making that offer. And sometimes, you know, the offer isn't anything that's helpful, but you know, especially when you think about uh people that go through um hard times or uh such new chapters they don't quite know what they need, right? If it's like a brand new baby or or some there's just could be things that they just don't know. And so um I just tend to offer and offer and offer and to like get it right. Yeah, or sometimes they just show up depending upon the person. So I love that. Yeah, and that's my and that's another way of like celebrating that for me, I think. Um it just comes very natural. I don't even really think about when I do it. Um it just kind of happens and then it just it it creates a really fun um way to again see people and just celebrate them and and just kind of guess what what would I want if I was in that situation.
SPEAKER_01That's like your um your celebration love language. Yes.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01If there's like a business, business love language, that would it would, that's what it would be. And I think um, gosh, I almost lost my train of thought. I really like the business love language piece. Oh, I would say that you know how when you're at the airport and they're like, you know, if you see something, say something. I really think that's a good mindset if you're like walking through your life or you're consciously creating community and you want to get closer to people, especially as you're going through this framework of like, how do I make a line of connections, conscious connections? Well, you gotta give and get both. Get get and give. If you could create like a weekly practice, just put it in your journal or your little planner with your to-do list, one of the to-dos could be who can I celebrate today and how? And really think about like, is it as simple as, you know, I think like there's times where I see people post things or whether they got a new puppy or they're starting a new business or they're starting a new service, and like I sort of scroll by and I kind of scroll back. I'm like, wait a minute, this person just put out something really either sweet or vulnerable, and I just love them, like, hey, so sweet. I love that you're doing this. This is great. You know, I don't, and it's it's I think we're so used to this like um transactional relationship online that you don't have to do it with the idea of getting something back versus like just let people know, like how would you feel? Like you said, how would you want it? How would you feel if you're like, I'm starting this new thing, it's so exciting, and then you sort of like post it, and then part of you is like, oh my gosh, was that okay? You know, how is this gonna be? And we all have it at every level. If someone that you sort of are in community with comments and they're like, oh my gosh, I love the way that sounds. I'm so happy for you. It would just give you a little bit of that boost and you can be that for somebody. And I do think abundance like creates more abundance, and like the better it gets, the better it gets. So it would be really cool practice. And I think I do it naturally too, but wouldn't it be interesting to do it for someone like a click out of your community? Maybe someone that you sort of see, but don't really know, but maybe want to get to know, and you start with that's such a cool offering. Yeah, it's not for me at this time, but I think it's amazing. Or maybe it is for you at this time. I don't know. Maybe you know someone who would be for it, or maybe just not even worry about the transactional side of it. Just I see you, that's so amazing. I just, I think you're, I think you're just so whatever. Dot dot dot.
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SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_00And that could bring so much more joy back too to interactions, like on social media, when we think about how passive it's become. And it's, you know, I definitely use it in a very passive way most of the time. Um and that become brings that intentionality back, which actually brings more joy into the process instead of just uh I'm doom scrolling, whatever the terms are. I'm doom scrolling, or I feel bad about myself, or you know, the things that might come up with social media, or I'm on it for too long. Um with something that's really intentional and fun, like celebration. I think that that also could could bring an element back of joy. We just need more joy.
SPEAKER_01Totally. And not just for social media, it could be for your community in general, like your neighbor or your UPS dude or your gal or you know, everyone has an Amazon driver these days, or 10 of them. Pops for all pops for a new one. Yeah. So I do think we're we're sort of talking in the context of you know, business and service and things like that. But I think if it becomes a habit in general, it can be very like joymaking. Why not? Why not make someone's day?
SPEAKER_02Oh my gosh, yes. And I like one of the things I enjoy doing too, if I know somebody's got a launch or something's happening in their business, it's like, how did it go? Like following up, like the follow-up can be a also part of celebration. And I think that's where like intentionality, it's it can continue, right? It's not just the hey, good luck. It's the and how did it go piece? And I love hearing about how people are doing after some big thing they've just either launched or they put out into the world in some way or they're playing around with or experimenting with. Yeah. That's another way.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, yeah. Good stuff.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, celebration is fun.
SPEAKER_00It is so much fun. It doesn't have to be a to-do list, that's a check mark.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. So we'll leave you with the question of like, how can I celebrate someone in my environment, community, business, service relationships? And it doesn't have to be complicated. It could just be, I see you, that's awesome. Just wanted to say hi. And I think you'd be shocked how it opens doors, how it creates new connections, how then it does like there is a natural reciprocation for someone who does reach out and do that. And it's not why you do it necessarily, it could just be a benefit of celebrating and reaching out and sharing. On the more technical side, I think we mentioned this a little bit, is you can share each other's offers like intentionally. Now, if you're moving towards um collaboration and co-creation, which are our next two phases of the framework, if you're doing it really intentionally, this is where you start to see if there is alignment by consciously sharing each other's offers to your audiences, if it makes sense. Being affiliates for each other, that's a really great way that people who actually have smaller audiences can be in front of other other audiences. And then, you know, being guest experts in each other's community, if that's appropriate, podcast, etc. So it's a way to celebrate while also creating win, win, win. Yes. Excellent.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, amazing. I feel like we all have different celebration energy. Yeah. Like mine is like very like like my jazzer size would be like. I was just gonna say, I'm gonna do right now. Please mire out the speakers. It's so good though. But I have a very like my I I just think that my energy of celebration is like just like probably super over the top if we were like on a on a scale, on a celebration scale. Terrifically extrovert. Yes. Yes, as an extrovert, an extrovert. I appreciate you seeing me. I see you. Where where do you guys feel like your celebration energy is? Like if there's like a spectrum of like that's a really interesting question.
SPEAKER_02I don't know. I mean, I'm not so different. I think we are. I'm definitely not as extroverted. I can be extroverted, and I'm I'm gonna say, like, I'm an introvert at heart. However, having been, you know, a performer for years, I can be very extroverted. And when I'm celebrating somebody else, I'm probably more extroverted. I'm probably somewhere in the middle.
SPEAKER_01Somewhere in the middle. I will say I think I have like a psychic intuitive gift for celebrating because what I what I can do, and I've I've been able to do is I can actually like really feel the person's either resistance to it or their like I don't know, I could just feel what they're doing. And so I love to leave a little voice note or like whether it's a card or a note, like I I I really pride myself on going like a level deeper because I'm I'm very like, I don't say empathic in the way of like, oh, I just feel so much. Like I do feel, but I do also feel like I can see the behind the reason why they're doing it. And so I love to kind of go in there when appropriate. I don't just like you know, throw out my psychic intuition towards everyone. But when I'm when I'm in community with someone, like I've had people that have transitioned or pi transitioned in their business, pivoted in their business or work or whatever, I can I can just like really feel the the the reasons behind it sometimes. And so whether I whether I do or not, I still I feel like um I would say the energy of mine is intimate. Like I do like the intimate energy of reaching out and just like saying it and like feel free to apply or not, I just wanted to leave it. Like I'm gonna be seeing what you're doing, and so I love doing that. There's times where I do pull back from doing, and I think it's usually to refill my own cup. So I feel like the more I'm doing everything for myself to like make sure I'm full and good and I I do all my things, I can be more generous with that, which is you know, interesting, right? Like if you're not feeling generous with your celebration, maybe there's some things you need to give to yourself that will help you feel more generous towards other people.
SPEAKER_02It's a good opportunity to get curious about what's going on for you. That's a curiosity. Yes. Yeah. Awesome.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, absolutely. Uh there's no coming. I yeah, the reminder of celebrating ourselves too. Yes. I think is like that piece that is maybe um maybe missing from what we've shared so far. It's like, yeah, actually, how how often do we celebrate ourselves? And maybe in those moments of like where we're feeling, you know, you kind of mentioned like there's a good side of envy. And so I don't know if this like correlates at all for you, but it it feels like if there is a time to go inward, if we're unsure, if we're not feeling uh a certain way about things, if we're like yeah, in a transition path ourselves. Like I do think that maybe reserving some of that energy to celebrate ourselves first is also healthy and good. 100%. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I I think that's a great reminder. Like, even just celebrating the small things with yourself gets you into that practice of noticing it in others too. So that's a huge point. Yes. So love it.
SPEAKER_00Celebration all around. You, others, people you may know, people you may not know. Yeah, so for the opportunities, yes, look for the opportunities.
SPEAKER_01Celebration. Adding on the question of how can you celebrate yourself. And in the next episode, we will move on to collaboration. We'll define collaboration and how you can move into the next phase of the framework, which is actually being in the same room with someone and creating something that maybe um brings the best of you to life. So we'll talk a little bit more about that. And now next time.